In Defense of Losing Your Virginity?
Though I didn't see it, I read today about a couple of comments made about purity rings during the MTV VMA's. I am posting an interesting article here for you to weigh in on. In case it isn't obvious, the perspective in the article does not reflect a Christian worldview.
Here is a quote:
"Virginity till marriage isn't a solution, it's a slogan. People should be free to make this choice, obviously. I'm not going to say they should be celebrated, because our sex lives are private. Neither side deserves cake and balloons.
But the idea of saving it for marriage is only so useful, and it's the sort of thing that will no doubt lead to starter marriages between horny 18-year-olds who don't have any idea what "till death do you part" really means.
Virginity itself is actually way less important than self respect, self control, and the ability to keep both intact in tough situations. Those are the lessons parents ought to teach. Ultimately, that's what will keep our kids safer in a big, bad world."
Read the whole thing here and feel free to comment
posted by copperhill at 4:26 PM
3 Comments:
Brockenbrough's article might make some sense in a world in which humans are no more than the sum of their atomic parts: a world in which God, truth, love, morality, and values play no part.
But this is not the world as it truly is. Transcendent moral laws do exist (note how many moral judgements she is free to make in the article). People do suffer spiritual and moral consequences when they choose to sin in violation of God's commandments. And marriages do suffer for lack of a monogamous commitment.
We older married folks know that true intimacy and bliss in marriage depends largely on the formation of a bond of trust between a man and a woman. Previous sexual activity, whether with other partners or with one another before marriage, only hinders the development of that bond. (Pornography and masturbation take a toll, too.) Ultimately, sexual purity elevates human beings and imbues us with a greater sense of dignity as God's special creations.
Of course, all of this makes sense only if you see sex in biblical terms: as a God-given gift for the pleasurable expression of commitment and affection between one man and one woman, and for the blessing of children in that lifelong marriage covenant.
On the other hand, if the goal is to provide young people with a "liberated" sexual outlook, while discounting entirely God's design and the need to protect hearts, minds, and bodies, then Brockenbrough's advice makes perfect sense. But young people ought not buy that cruel proposition...not even for a moment.
Brockenbrough commented that "horny eighteen year olds... have no idea what 'til death do us part'" means, but from the divorce statistics in the US and most western cultures it seems that very few people in marriages have any clue what "til death do us part" means. Its almost as if their vows on the marriage day should say: "til something do us part". It would make the divorce rate more dignified.
I think this whole topic is very sad! I am ready for God to come back now. Standing up for what God wants is like a joke to the world. I pray that we realize that the way we live our lives is the only bible that some people may ever open. I think that people that choose to stay pure do it for God and not man. I don't think non-believers get that.
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